Trio

 In each person in this life,we play 3 persona,the child,the adult and the parent.its the childhood imprint that leaves the biggest impact when a child becomes a grown up.if a child is brought up in an abusive,violent environment,the aggression will become latent as part and parcel of his personality.it will form a vicious cycle as he will subconsciously act out the behaviours that were meted out on him onto his own partner or child when he is an adult.

Viktor Frankl,a renowned Austrian  psychiatrist was a survivor of the Nazi concentration camp.He wrote the book Man's search for meaning which i liked a lot.He created psychotherapy techniques which distill the philosophy of how to live well.One was to have a purpose in life to feel positive about.He also talks about how we cant escape from the circumstances of our life but we have the freedom to choose how we respond to suffering.Do we want to rave,rant,whine and see ourselves as the victim of circumstances or do we see ourselves as master of our own lives,in control of our thoughts and responses.

My favourite t shirt has the slogan " No pain,no gain.*.this is a stoic response to suffering to say we cannot avoid pain in our lives so as parents,we cannot prevent our kids from making mistakes or experiencing failures.Being overprotective doesnt give them the reality of life.So the kid has to walk his own path,make his own mistakes for failure and experience are the best teachers of life.if the school of hard knocks doesnt knock some sense into him,he will keep on repeating his mistakes until the day he wakes up and realizes where he went wrong and how to correct those mistakes.