Haemin Sunim When things don't go your way

This Zen Buddhist Korean monk has written 3 books that im looking for.When things dont go your way,the things you can see only when you slow down and love for the imperfect things.Ive been viewing his enlightening talk with Chase Jarvis on Youtube .this saying your true nature is without thoughts remind me to empty my mind from ruminations. it also made me aware of facing my fears like fear of loss and focus on the present.Due to attachment to people i love and my pet,this attachment comes with a catch ,love is fleeting and the more you try to hold on to it,the more it eludes your grasp.when it is there,enjoy the moment.when it is time,just let go.