Self reflection

I just viewed 2 Dhamma talks by a Korean Zen monk and it opened my mind on how to see labels and false expectations lead to suffering.The teachings of dhamma led to practice of meditation and how we torture ourselves when we embue meaning to our thoughts as right and wrong and when we embrace life itself

and not overthink,we feel simple,light and trouble free Its so ironic that monks are celibate,cut off ties to familial and societal life and they give the most useful advice on marriage,relationships,family bonds and relationship with the wider community. Instead of expecting others to adjust to us,why dont we adjust ourselves instead.By shifting the mindset,we lessen potential conflict and unhappiness. I think young people should go for a refresher course on love and marriage and living with in laws before they seriously consider settling down.it would avoid a lot of marital discord and divorce as is happening now in modern society.